Vibrate Higher


“Remain so zoned out with vibrating higher that you have no time throughout your day to focus on negativity, drama, and petty things.” – Lalah Delia, Vibrate Higher Daily

My amazing photographer friend Jeanette of Jean B Photography posted this picture from a recent photography session and it took my breath away. Not in a vain, “I think I’m cute”, superficial way but in a,“wow, I can SEE the joy in my eyes.” I can actually see the manifestation of all the hard work I have been putting into becoming this positive, joyful woman.

Jeanette couldn’t have posted this picture at a better time. It was as if she knew I needed a little reminder. (Sidenote: Jeanette and I always joke that she has ESP, because this happens to us a lot.) 

This past week has been one test after another. Personally, professionally, relational – test, test, test. It became so much that I really questioned if I even wanted to be this high vibration, positive person – because let’s be real, it’s a lot easier to be petty. (Gimme a P-E-T-T-Y, I’m petty all the time!) But I took a moment to regroup, refocus and reaffirm my commitment to this journey.

And because we are on this journey together, I’ll share with you some of the ways I pull(ed) it together.

  • Prayer/Quiet Time – I don’t have a consisted time of day or a particular routine that I follow, but when I’m being tested, I try to take a few moments and sit still. I sit and sift through my thoughts; what is true about how I feel? Is this worth holding on to? –After I quiet my mind, I pray. I pray for wisdom, strength and guidance for my next steps.
  • Refocus my thoughts – Once I have slowed my thoughts down, then I begin to “take captive every thought” and replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. Instead of thinking, “man, I’m having a horrible day”, I try to think, “This is just a moment. This moment will pass. Today will STILL be a great day.”
  • Seek positive energy –  I am an energy snob.  I work really hard to make sure that I bring a light, positive energy to any situation that I am involved in, so I have NO time for negative, messy energy. I am very careful of the company I keep and the conversations that I entertain.  This means I curate what I see on social media (hello unfollow button!), I don’t get entertain every conversation and I am not interested in hanging out with certain people. At this point, it is almost instinctive to cut off negativity, because I have no desire to have it in my life.

Those are just a few ways that I make sure that I am exuding positive energy and vibrating higher. But what say you? What are some ways you guard your heart? Do you have any advice for blocking out the “negative Nancy” of the world?

Also,  let me know if you are interested in me sharing more of the ways I curate my social media and my digital space to ensure that I have positive energy online.


Shanetra D.



So, I Have a Girl Crush

Hey there!

Since we are best friends now, I have to tell you a secret. I have an insane girl crush. Like it’s an, “I think I love her” type of crush.

My boyfriend doesn’t understand it. He just didn’t understand why I insist on seeing her again and again. He just took me to see her this past December in Charleston and I was geeked about seeing her again. The only response I could give him was “She’s Jill Scott. I have to see her.” End of story.


My best friend and I went to see her at the Township Auditorium last week and it was 3 full hours of pure, black WOMAN magic. She was introduced by a powerful spoken word artist named Georgia Me, who started the night by making us laugh, then empowering us to accept the bodies we were given and to learn to speak to the king within our black men.


Then Jill hit the stage. Jill graced us with her sultry voice, her amazing band, her witty sense of humor, her MAGIC. We went from fun girls night songs, to sexy love songs, and we hit everything in between. The concert ended with an amazing display of musical talent by her band and backup singer that ushered you right into a beautiful state of euphoria.

Once I came down from my high, I had an epiphany. Yes, I love Jill, but what I REALLY love is the way she affirms my womanhood. She tells me I can be a strong boss chick, soft and sexy for my man, that fun, goofy girlfriend and a doting mother.  

Here are 4 excerpts from her music that has solidified what I know to be true as a 31-year-old WOMAN:

“Maybe you don’t recognize what you got between your eyes (well), So I’m gonna set you correct so you can get what you should get (well), Intuition’s something sweet (well), Let you know what you know, let you find before you seek (well), Spirit of discernment, pray for it every day (well), Let you know who should go and who you should let stay (well)” – Rolling Hills, The Light of the Sun

  1. Trust your instincts. – Now I know you thinking, “Duh, Shanetra”, but I don’t know how many personal fires I’ve had to put out because I went against my gut feeling. Or how many uncomfortable situations I’ve been in this week because I decided to either go along with the group or with the societal norm. –So now, no matter the situation, if it doesn’t “sit well with me” then I’m not doing it nor am I letting it into my space.

“I’m taking my freedom, Pulling it off the shelf, Putting it on my chain, Wear it around my neck, I’m taking my freedom, Putting it in my car, Wherever I choose to go, It will take me far…” – Golden, Beautifully Human: Words And Sounds Vol.

2. My life. My rules. – Now, I would be lying to you if I told you that I have completely mastered this concept. I realize that this is a part of my journey and I am more conscious about questioning myself about everything. Daily I am gaining more clarification about who I am, and I am designing my life around those truths, no one else’s.

“If I can find in all this, A dozen roses, Which I would give to you, You’d still be miserable, In reality, I’m gon be who I be, And I don’t feel no faults” – Hate on Me, Beautifully Human: Words And Sounds Vol. 3

3. It’s okay to outgrow things. And other people. – To know me is to know that I LOVE people. I am that person you probably don’t want to sit next to on the plane. Because unless I am sleeping myself, I am talking to you. I love genuine connections and learning more about people’s story. So I tend to make a friend wherever I go.  However, in recent years, I haven’t been able to maintain some relationships. And though it breaks my heart, I have had to understand that it’s okay. It doesn’t mean that there is any love lost, it just means you and the other person were growing in different directions.

“This is the last take for the night, Understand it’s kinda late, And I gotta get home to my son, ‘Cause he’s so special to me, I mean I gotta see him, I need to breathe him, That’s my baby, don’t call me crazy, I love the studio but I love him more” – Blessed, The Light of the Sun

4. Being a mother is truly my life’s joy. And I now realize, I can’t allow motherhood to become another self-imposed limitation to the rest of my life. –I adore being my son’s mother. I would not trade a single moment of this journey for any amount of money in the world. But the older he gets and the further I get on my personal journey, the more I realize that I’ve allowed “being someone’s mother” stunt my growth in other areas. Now if you ask any of your mommy friends she will tell you that “mommy guilt” is a paralyzing condition, one that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. But the message that is constantly being stressed to me is to make sure that I “put my mask on first.” I can’t be a great mother to Langston if I am unfulfilled, or tired, or empty. I can’t boast that I am raising my son in a “happy, two-parent home” if I don’t take the time to be his father’s girlfriend, not co-parent. I will have to miss things, Grandma and Gigi may have to fill in for me, and that’s okay. I have to make sure that I am not trying to pour from an empty cup. He deserves it. I deserve it.



At the end of the concert, she emphasized the importance of appreciating real music. She said the instrument itself is an inanimate object without the soul of the person behind it. Music connects us, it sparks something in our souls.

I could go on and on about soulful music that speaks to me, but it’s your turn. Who is your favorite artist? Why?

Share some links below!


Shanetra D.


P.s. I also have a new obsession with Indie artists…who else should I be listening to?

I’m Hopping Out of the Box

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Hey lady!

So let’s get right to it, I know you are thinking, weren’t you just doing something called Breakfast Board? What happened to that? What you got going on, girl?

Let’s start from the beginning, I jumped into the blogsphere head first with my blog Breakfast Board, and my intention with Breakfast Board was to “create a place where you and I can get together and talk about life’s journey and leave the conversation a little better than when we started.” And though, that is still a focus of Shanetra D, it isn’t the only focus.I realized (the hard way) that I was forcing myself into a yet another self-limiting box.

Yes, I absolutely love relationship building and seeing the spark in someone’s eye when they start to talk about their “thing.” And I love getting together with my girlfriends to talk and hang out. But the truth is, I don’t see them as much as I would like to, and as much as I like to have meaningful conversations, I equally love foolery and shenanigans. So when I was brainstorming ideas for Breakfast Board, I realized that I needed to expand my brand to encompass all of the different aspects of me.

The other day, my friend and I were having a conversation and she stated that she had had an epiphany, she realized “she was multidimensional” and she accepted that it was okay. She went on to explain what she meant by that, and the more she talked the more clarity I got about Shanetra D.

I am multidimensional! So WHY wouldn’t my blog be? Why did I think that I could squeeze myself into any box?

I love deep, thought-provoking conversations AND quoting rap songs as I deem appropriate.

I buy organic food for my family BUT sometimes I crave a country breakfast from Lizard’s Thicket.

I have a playlist with Jill Scott, Kevin Gates, Travis Greene, John Coltrane, Beyonce, Joss Stone AND Hillsong United.

And. That’s. Okay.

All of these things make me who I am. And the more I live and learn about Shanetra D, the more I love her.

So I am inviting you along on this journey. We may have to grab our shovels and dig deep but I promise it won’t all be that way. We will have fun. Lots of it.

Are you ready? Comment below and let me know!

Shanetra D

“A Feather in the Wind”

Like most moms, trying to remember your life pre-motherhood, can be extremely difficult. Sure you remember the obvious things like, afternoon naps, midnight Walmart trips, or having cereal for dinner. But what about the other things; what types of things did I do? What did I like? What dreams did I have?

The best way I can describe my life before conceiving my son is, I was like “A Feather in the Wind.” I had no real direction or sense of true responsibility. Now, to my defense I was young, I got pregnant at 25, so age played a factor in my decision making. But I was still just floating wherever the breeze took me. 

My mom always says “the grass will never grow under your feet. You don’t stay still long enough.”

And she is right. I have a very free spirit and I used to follow what feels right, without properly processing the repercussions. That way of thinking dramatically affected me in 3 areas: my love life, my personal goals, and my life experiences.

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How the Miss Naturally Crowned Pageant Encouraged Me to Be Unapologetically Authentic

Last weekend, my intentions behind attending the MNCC pageant were just to get cute and cut up with my friends. I expected to see some dope fros, intricate updos, fresh locs, banging shoes and to watch the ladies SLAY! What I did not expect was to receive so many reaffirming messages throughout the night.

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