For Glowing From the Inside Out

Tracy G Sway

Major key alert! – Meet one of the many friends in my head – Tracy G!

I first discovered Tracy G on the Bevy Says podcast, “Who You Calling a Slut, Loving Your Body & Owning Your Sexuality”, where they discussed body image, sexuality and feminism in pop culture. The show itself was extremely enlightening and motivational, I mean, these women were having this wonderful conversation about navigating your body image and sexuality without the constraints of someone else’s opinions and they allowed you to listen in. It was funny and educational and gave you so many nuggets for your personal repertoire.

Now, this show is not for the faint of heart, these are grown ladies using very colorful language, but you can check it out here.

Real quick, let’s take a moment of silence to pray that Bevy releases another episode soon. I LOVE her!

Wait, I thought this was about Tracy, who is she?

Tracy G dubs herself as “Self-talk Strategist. Edutainer. Trillass Individual.” She’s on the SirusXM show, Sway in the Morning and she is the creator of the brand “She’s Beauty and the Beast”.

She’s Beauty and the Beast is a “compilation of audio musings, lifestyle + personal development + social commentary and overall caffeine for the spirit, She’s Beauty And The Beast is a new, millennial wellness brand for those who could rock with an extra partner in progression.”

It. Is. Dope.

It is definitely a part of my morning (and sometimes afternoon) routines and I honestly can tell a difference in my psyche once I repeat the affirmations.

And since you are my girlfriend, I am going to share my favorite affirmations with you. *Full disclosure, she isn’t for everyone. She uses some words that I wouldn’t repeat in front of my mama, but I like her.*



And because I’m currently obsessed with all things Tracy, check out HER podcast here!


Here’s to glowing from the inside out!



Shanetra D

3 Tips to Maintain Your Adult Friendships

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At the beginning of this year, I hosted a vision board party and at this party I chose a word that would be my “word of the year.” Now before you roll your eyes at me, hear me out. The word I chose for myself was intentional.

Intentional: inˈten(t)SH(ə)n(ə)l/ adjective, done on purpose; deliberate.

I wanted to stop letting life just happen, I wanted to be intentional with my decision making and truly design the life I desired.

One area that I have been focusing on the past few months has been my taking the time to have intentional friendships. I want to always be the friend that I wish I had and I know in order to do this then I have to make intentional decisions to make sure I am nurturing my friendships.  Because I’ve noticed that the older I get and the more responsibilities I get (read: Langston’s social calendar), the harder it is to keep up with my friends.  And I want to make sure that I am surrounding myself with women that are going to help me grow and enjoy life, not just women that are in close proximity to my day to day life.
Here are some of the ways that I am intentional about nurturing my friendships:

•If that person crosses my mind or I realize that I haven’t talked to them in a while, then I immediately reach out. – This can be via phone call, text, or email. I check in and let them know that they were on my mind and if they are local, I try to set up a time to see them face to face.

•I do my best to support them and/or their projects. – I have some pretty creative girlfriends so any time they are working on project I do my best to like, share, comment, DONATE and/or attend. So while I am here, it’s great to like and comment on your friends’ social media posts, but if they provide a service or product, and you were going to spend the coins anyway…GIVE THE COINS TO YOUR FRIEND!

•I invite them places. – Now this may seem a like a no brainer, but if you want to SEE someone, tell them. They can’t read your mind. You HAVE to reach out. And who cares if “you always have to call first”, if you are the extroverted friend, then guess what, you have to call first. Period.

Now, my friends will tell you, I am by no means perfect at this, I fall short, I miss things, I forget to text back (hush, Shuana!), but I make a conscious effort. Intentional friendships are the cornerstone to my adult life…I don’t know what I would do without you guys!


Here’s to more girls’ trips, living room dance parties, and brunch!



Shanetra D


p.s. Another way that I nurture my friendships is I share all the great gems I find online. It could be an IG account that’s popping, a new blog or my newest podcast obsession like this one. Want in on the party? Join my email list and you’re in!


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Vibrate Higher

Vibrate Higher

“Remain so zoned out with vibrating higher that you have no time throughout your day to focus on negativity, drama, and petty things.” – Lalah Delia, Vibrate Higher Daily

My amazing photographer friend Jeanette of Jean B Photography posted this picture from a recent photography session and it took my breath away. Not in a vain, “I think I’m cute”, superficial way but in a,“wow, I can SEE the joy in my eyes.” I can actually see the manifestation of all the hard work I have been putting into becoming this positive, joyful woman.

Jeanette couldn’t have posted this picture at a better time. It was as if she knew I needed a little reminder. (Sidenote: Jeanette and I always joke that she has ESP, because this happens to us a lot.) 

This past week has been one test after another. Personally, professionally, relational – test, test, test. It became so much that I really questioned if I even wanted to be this high vibration, positive person – because let’s be real, it’s a lot easier to be petty. (Gimme a P-E-T-T-Y, I’m petty all the time!) But I took a moment to regroup, refocus and reaffirm my commitment to this journey.

And because we are on this journey together, I’ll share with you some of the ways I pull(ed) it together.

  • Prayer/Quiet Time – I don’t have a consisted time of day or a particular routine that I follow, but when I’m being tested, I try to take a few moments and sit still. I sit and sift through my thoughts; what is true about how I feel? Is this worth holding on to? –After I quiet my mind, I pray. I pray for wisdom, strength and guidance for my next steps.
  • Refocus my thoughts – Once I have slowed my thoughts down, then I begin to “take captive every thought” and replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. Instead of thinking, “man, I’m having a horrible day”, I try to think, “This is just a moment. This moment will pass. Today will STILL be a great day.”
  • Seek positive energy –  I am an energy snob.  I work really hard to make sure that I bring a light, positive energy to any situation that I am involved in, so I have NO time for negative, messy energy. I am very careful of the company I keep and the conversations that I entertain.  This means I curate what I see on social media (hello unfollow button!), I don’t get entertain every conversation and I am not interested in hanging out with certain people. At this point, it is almost instinctive to cut off negativity, because I have no desire to have it in my life.

Those are just a few ways that I make sure that I am exuding positive energy and vibrating higher. But what say you? What are some ways you guard your heart? Do you have any advice for blocking out the “negative Nancy” of the world?

Also,  let me know if you are interested in me sharing more of the ways I curate my social media and my digital space to ensure that I have positive energy online.


Shanetra D.



So, I Have a Girl Crush

Hey there!

Since we are best friends now, I have to tell you a secret. I have an insane girl crush. Like it’s an, “I think I love her” type of crush.

My boyfriend doesn’t understand it. He just didn’t understand why I insist on seeing her again and again. He just took me to see her this past December in Charleston and I was geeked about seeing her again. The only response I could give him was “She’s Jill Scott. I have to see her.” End of story.


My best friend and I went to see her at the Township Auditorium last week and it was 3 full hours of pure, black WOMAN magic. She was introduced by a powerful spoken word artist named Georgia Me, who started the night by making us laugh, then empowering us to accept the bodies we were given and to learn to speak to the king within our black men.


Then Jill hit the stage. Jill graced us with her sultry voice, her amazing band, her witty sense of humor, her MAGIC. We went from fun girls night songs, to sexy love songs, and we hit everything in between. The concert ended with an amazing display of musical talent by her band and backup singer that ushered you right into a beautiful state of euphoria.

Once I came down from my high, I had an epiphany. Yes, I love Jill, but what I REALLY love is the way she affirms my womanhood. She tells me I can be a strong boss chick, soft and sexy for my man, that fun, goofy girlfriend and a doting mother.  

Here are 4 excerpts from her music that has solidified what I know to be true as a 31-year-old WOMAN:

“Maybe you don’t recognize what you got between your eyes (well), So I’m gonna set you correct so you can get what you should get (well), Intuition’s something sweet (well), Let you know what you know, let you find before you seek (well), Spirit of discernment, pray for it every day (well), Let you know who should go and who you should let stay (well)” – Rolling Hills, The Light of the Sun

  1. Trust your instincts. – Now I know you thinking, “Duh, Shanetra”, but I don’t know how many personal fires I’ve had to put out because I went against my gut feeling. Or how many uncomfortable situations I’ve been in this week because I decided to either go along with the group or with the societal norm. –So now, no matter the situation, if it doesn’t “sit well with me” then I’m not doing it nor am I letting it into my space.

“I’m taking my freedom, Pulling it off the shelf, Putting it on my chain, Wear it around my neck, I’m taking my freedom, Putting it in my car, Wherever I choose to go, It will take me far…” – Golden, Beautifully Human: Words And Sounds Vol.

2. My life. My rules. – Now, I would be lying to you if I told you that I have completely mastered this concept. I realize that this is a part of my journey and I am more conscious about questioning myself about everything. Daily I am gaining more clarification about who I am, and I am designing my life around those truths, no one else’s.

“If I can find in all this, A dozen roses, Which I would give to you, You’d still be miserable, In reality, I’m gon be who I be, And I don’t feel no faults” – Hate on Me, Beautifully Human: Words And Sounds Vol. 3

3. It’s okay to outgrow things. And other people. – To know me is to know that I LOVE people. I am that person you probably don’t want to sit next to on the plane. Because unless I am sleeping myself, I am talking to you. I love genuine connections and learning more about people’s story. So I tend to make a friend wherever I go.  However, in recent years, I haven’t been able to maintain some relationships. And though it breaks my heart, I have had to understand that it’s okay. It doesn’t mean that there is any love lost, it just means you and the other person were growing in different directions.

“This is the last take for the night, Understand it’s kinda late, And I gotta get home to my son, ‘Cause he’s so special to me, I mean I gotta see him, I need to breathe him, That’s my baby, don’t call me crazy, I love the studio but I love him more” – Blessed, The Light of the Sun

4. Being a mother is truly my life’s joy. And I now realize, I can’t allow motherhood to become another self-imposed limitation to the rest of my life. –I adore being my son’s mother. I would not trade a single moment of this journey for any amount of money in the world. But the older he gets and the further I get on my personal journey, the more I realize that I’ve allowed “being someone’s mother” stunt my growth in other areas. Now if you ask any of your mommy friends she will tell you that “mommy guilt” is a paralyzing condition, one that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. But the message that is constantly being stressed to me is to make sure that I “put my mask on first.” I can’t be a great mother to Langston if I am unfulfilled, or tired, or empty. I can’t boast that I am raising my son in a “happy, two-parent home” if I don’t take the time to be his father’s girlfriend, not co-parent. I will have to miss things, Grandma and Gigi may have to fill in for me, and that’s okay. I have to make sure that I am not trying to pour from an empty cup. He deserves it. I deserve it.



At the end of the concert, she emphasized the importance of appreciating real music. She said the instrument itself is an inanimate object without the soul of the person behind it. Music connects us, it sparks something in our souls.

I could go on and on about soulful music that speaks to me, but it’s your turn. Who is your favorite artist? Why?

Share some links below!


Shanetra D.


P.s. I also have a new obsession with Indie artists…who else should I be listening to?

I’m Hopping Out of the Box

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Hey lady!

So let’s get right to it, I know you are thinking, weren’t you just doing something called Breakfast Board? What happened to that? What you got going on, girl?

Let’s start from the beginning, I jumped into the blogsphere head first with my blog Breakfast Board, and my intention with Breakfast Board was to “create a place where you and I can get together and talk about life’s journey and leave the conversation a little better than when we started.” And though, that is still a focus of Shanetra D, it isn’t the only focus.I realized (the hard way) that I was forcing myself into a yet another self-limiting box.

Yes, I absolutely love relationship building and seeing the spark in someone’s eye when they start to talk about their “thing.” And I love getting together with my girlfriends to talk and hang out. But the truth is, I don’t see them as much as I would like to, and as much as I like to have meaningful conversations, I equally love foolery and shenanigans. So when I was brainstorming ideas for Breakfast Board, I realized that I needed to expand my brand to encompass all of the different aspects of me.

The other day, my friend and I were having a conversation and she stated that she had had an epiphany, she realized “she was multidimensional” and she accepted that it was okay. She went on to explain what she meant by that, and the more she talked the more clarity I got about Shanetra D.

I am multidimensional! So WHY wouldn’t my blog be? Why did I think that I could squeeze myself into any box?

I love deep, thought-provoking conversations AND quoting rap songs as I deem appropriate.

I buy organic food for my family BUT sometimes I crave a country breakfast from Lizard’s Thicket.

I have a playlist with Jill Scott, Kevin Gates, Travis Greene, John Coltrane, Beyonce, Joss Stone AND Hillsong United.

And. That’s. Okay.

All of these things make me who I am. And the more I live and learn about Shanetra D, the more I love her.

So I am inviting you along on this journey. We may have to grab our shovels and dig deep but I promise it won’t all be that way. We will have fun. Lots of it.

Are you ready? Comment below and let me know!

Shanetra D